Do you get nervous when you have to introduce yourself from the front of the room at a networking event?
Do your voice and hands get shaky when you give a presentation? How about dry mouth? Do you get that dear-in-the-headlights look or go blank about what to say?
Whatever your symptom, let me assure you of this…
YOU ARE PERFECTLY NORMAL!!!
And here's what it means…
That's right. You care about the experience and the learning the audience or participants have with you. It only gets problematic when you twist that energy of caring into fear – making it mean something negative about you. "Am I qualified to teach this? What do I know? What if I…?" etc., etc.
Here's a question for you…
What if you fully acknowledged the fear and let it inform you instead of freeze you? Sometimes the fear shows us where we really do need to fill some gaps and other times it's just the primitive part of our brain trying to protect us from some future pain that isn't even real.
So with that in mind, how do you conquer public speaking fear? Today and over the next two weeks, you'll get tips and principles to start transforming your fear so you can be your best when you step up to speak.
In my experience and the experience of sages through the ages, there are essentially three things that conquer (or at the very least – significantly reduce) public speaking fear:
2.) Re-programming Beliefs and
Today I'm going to cover Action. I'll cover Re-Programming Beliefs and Knowledge over the next two weeks.
Action conquers fear. Taking action in spite of the fear is the quickest and most useful means to conquer fear that I know of and here's why:
When you take action in spite of fear, you learn soooo much about yourself that you can build on very quickly, and you learn that you will, indeed, live through the experience. You may even enjoy it!
The two types of action I want to focus on are:
1.) Physical Rehearsal and
2.) Real Experience
Turning the data you've got in your head into wisdom requires action – a visceral experience. The action of physical rehearsal allows your presentation (the information in your head) to get expressed through your voice, muscles and bones so you don't have to "think" so much when you are speaking. It only takes a little practice to make a big difference. Your body, heart and mind will know what to do and when to do it because it has the wisdom of the rehearsal experience.
Now, do you remember when you were 16 and learned all about the rules of driving from a book? Then you got some practice in a parking lot with an instructor. Then you went out on the road for real. Wasn't that real experience a lot different than the safety of the parking lot and certainly the safety of the driving manual? But didn't you also learn and correct with lightning speed, quickly turning it into a habit? That's what taking action with real experience does for you. It allows you to integrate and adjust in quantum leaps.
Those who have succeeded at the highest levels of any endeavor, including speaking, have acted in spite of fear. I know for me, when I act in spite of fear, I feel the most alive, alert and transformed. It makes the following actions dramatically easier.
On August 12, George Ira Carroll, a Master Certified NLP Coach and I will be co-facilitating a one-day workshop to help you break through fears and limited thinking. It's a perfect opportunity to apply the strategies of Action and Re-Programming Beliefs to conquer public speaking fear. Learn More Here or Register Now. I hope to see you live and in person soon!