This week's installment of the Speak with HEART blog series covers the "A." "A" is for Authenticity – your ability to be genuine, real and truthful AND be highly effective in your spoken word marketing and selling.
Have you ever listened to a speaker or been to a networking event where you could just tell that the speaker was somehow not present or connecting with you?
All too often, I see speakers and networkers, using words and approaches that seem incongruent with who they really are. Maybe they are trying too hard to impress their audience or following someone else's style, or maybe they're trying to speak from a memorized script instead of speaking from their heart and the wisdom of experience. Sometimes it's just plain fear that prevents people from speaking with authenticity.
Most people have a radar for sensing when someone is being inauthentic, whether they know it on a conscious level or not, and they will either walk away or stop listening when the radar is activated.
As the one speaking, your inauthentic moments may be completely innocent and unseen by you or they may be an intentional attempt to cover up some perceived shortcoming.
Whatever the case may be, here is aTip that will help you get connected and stay connected to your authenticity…
…Close your eyes and take a moment to get centered with a few deep breaths. Then complete the following statement:
"I know I am being Authentic when _____________________."
Ask the same question several more times again and see if different answers come up. Then put some sticky notes with your answers on them on your computer and mirror to remind yourself to tune in and connect with the REAL you.
When you can reconnect with that part of yourself that is true and genuine and real AND bring it to your on-stage, on-video and networking efforts, WOW! what a difference it will make in your trust factor and magnetism! And you will relax!
Check out World Class Networking to learn how to bring your authenticity to all of your 1 on 1 networking conversations and experience the attractiveness of authenticity for yourself. June 29.
Also, check out the Conscious 360 Boulder Networking Mixer coming June 14 for more practice bringing the real you to the business table.